I've had to eat my words dear friends. I exclusively breastfed my first two boys. I was a bit anti-bottle, a bit snobbish about it. Now, I never outwardly said bottle feeding was bad but I couldn't understand why one wouldn't breastfeed.
Breast is best, no?
And yes, I had bumps at the beginning. It was tricky and took some getting use to, both mom and baby. But by golly, I was not a quitter. I was a doer. And do I did.
No, but not this time. Humbled and feeling a bit defeated, I made the decision to bottle feed baby N. It was hard. I am surrounded by women who are very pro breast. And I didn't want to feel guilty for choosing not to this time.
I am a bit OCD when it comes to being organized. It pretty much makes my heart sing. So I quizzed all of my bottle feeding friends and discovered some things on my own. Here is how to bottle feed, in style and stress free.
I did pump for a few weeks and highly recommend any of the medela pumps. They are spot on the BEST out there. But if you choose to go straight to formula, I learned that it takes a little trial and error. Nicholas does well on the soy based Isomil.
Bottles are important if you have gassy babies. And let the record show, breast or formula, I just have gassy babies period. Nic currently favors the born free bottles
For traveling, this diaper bag
Now Nicholas doesn't seem to be picky and will take his water at room temperature. I just use the bottle water I normally drink. But I do keep bottled water in the car incase I need it. And right now with the chilly temps, that means cooler water. This bottle warmer wrap
Bottle feeding is definitely not as quick as whipping out the girls but I've found a nice rhythm. Before I go to bed at night, I fill three bottles with water and my trusty formula container. All I have to do when I hear N waking up is dump the formula in the bottle and shake. Takes no time at all.
There you have it ladies. If you choose to breastfeed, rock on! That is definitely my first choice but if circumstances don't allow, I hope some of my tips were helpful.
Happy feeding!














Good for you for making a choice that works best for you. I (and my daughter) suffered for 6 months trying to breastfeed when it just was not working for us (I became very ill after my c section and after many drugs and fevers, my milk just went away despite much pumping!). I had a doctor demanding I supplement with formula so she could gain weight properly and a lactation specialist telling me that it is not possible for me to be not producing milk, that I must be doing something wrong. I felt very guilty and defeated and I think it took away a bit from that precious time. I promised myself that if there is a next time, I will not make us suffer, if it works, wonderful, if not, move forward. We mamas need to be kinder to ourselves sometimes. xox
ReplyDeletethat's the great thing about parenting...you can do whatever works best for YOU!!
ReplyDeleteI hope that mothers never feel guilty for doing what's best for baby AND mommy! It's hard when breastfeeding is hard, because on top of all of those hormones racing you get the feeling you are failing somehow! It's not so! I tried for 2 weeks to breastfeed with my first- he kept loosing weight and was becoming dehydrated, so we had to subsidise with bottle-- he never went back. I pumped for 10.5 months for him. Best decision I could make for all of us. Now I have #2 and it is working great to just breastfeed! You just never know what will work best! Good for you for making sure you could be healthy for your children.
ReplyDeleteGood for you Molly! Life with a new born is so darn hard and there are so many pressures. You need to make sure to take care of yourself first! I'm sure it was a tough decision, but as a mom that bottle fed 2 happy healthy little boys, I can tell you it will all be okay in the end!
ReplyDeleteGood for you! I too had a ton of difficulty with nursing my first (even though I was a maternity RN and had a load of experience helping others). I was surrounded (obviously) by so many pro nursing and even some nursing nazis and the pressure I felt to make it work was nearly unbearable. I tried and tried as I quickly fell into PPD. Then I decided that this was crazy. My baby needed a sane, functioning mom. It was hard but absolutely the right thing to do. My second, I was able to exclusively breastfeed (for 19 months) which was great but it didn't matter all that much in the grand scheme of things. Both my kids are happy, healthy and more importantly, have a "healthy mom". Good for you for making the right choice for you! There's lots of us behind you out here in cyberland :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for this honest post!
ReplyDeleteWe have the same story! I had baby #3 last March and nursed my first two exclusively for a full year. PPD with no help after baby #2. I had none with baby #3 which was great, but for some reason I didn't have enough milk this time. She self weaned right around 7 months. I was so sad about it, but I like that bottle feeding seems much easier. I wish I had all your fancy tools, but warm tap water and a bunch of clean bottles seem to work for us, even if I would much rather be nursing. I think I might like that sterilizer if baby girl didn't turn one next month.
ReplyDeleteYou just described what happened when I had my first! And your bedtime routine was exactly what I would do!
ReplyDeleteThe second time around I was able(after MONTHS of pumping and therpist appointments) to nurse and it is awesome but my bottle fed baby is pretty darn special too!
Glad you found what works for you and little N because that is all that matters!