8.24.2011

motherhood | a hug will do.

Psst... My biggest flaw?  I have a temper.  There I said it and now you know I am not perfect.  One of my struggles as a mother is to control this fiery personality of mine.  I am surprised I am not a ginger (although I did, once upon a time, have strawberry blonde hair).  But that is neither here nor there.

I would like to congratulate myself for improving over the last 6+ years.  I have become better (not perfect) at closing my eyes.  Breathing deep.  And sometimes even escaping to a corner to calm my nerves.  The guilt that piles up after yelling is depressing.  I believe one of my (most important) jobs as a mother is to testify of my unconditional love.  And well, yelling just doesn't fit into that equation, now does it?

I have learned that there are (usually) three culprits that contribute to meltdowns...

1. hunger
2. lack of sleep
3. in need of attention

And I have also learned the power of a hug.  Because sometimes they just need to know (and feel) that you love them.  That you love them despite the tears.  The messy house.  The bickering.  I am their rock and they should know that.

6 comments:

  1. I love your honesty--I think we need more of it in this increasingly glossy/perfect internet world. Hugs do work wonders! Thanks for the reminder.

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  2. great post! and great tips.. might be good for me to get my mood-swings (usually related to hunger or pms) under control before i have some babies. xo

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  3. What a relieving post. I love the honesty. One thing I sometimes hate about blogs is that we all show our best selves, not our messy house or our screaming kids or that dinner was late. Thanks for sharing this. Just what I needed to read today with a toddler who's been insane the last 2 days and my patient and everything I am running really slim. I'm going to hug her more.

    bekatelyn.com

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  4. this is rad.
    so true and i can relate to it all...

    it's hard in the moment but hitting pause and connecting *always* makes it better, shifts the energy.

    great post...
    (i stumbled across your blog not too long ago and love it!)

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  5. Thank goodness I'm not the only one who yells and regrets it! This is a daily struggle for me as well - to keep calm in all of life's many situations with my children and to be in the present moment with them. Thanks for sharing.

    xo
    Cortnie

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